We all have two form of values, some are internal and some are external. Understanding what each value means to us can either act as o

Our pleasure seeker or mean of retribution.🥴🥴

The concept in the book by Mark Manson- the subtle art of not giving a F. Mentioned that “Pleasure is false god”.🤔🤔

He further explained that
“Pleasure is the most superficial form of life satisfactions and therefore the easiest to obtain and the easiest to lose”🤬🤬

Makes it believe that our chase for pleasure is a result of our retribution rather than happiness. As pleasure should be the result or reward to our actions rather than our purpose for journey. This mimic the pleasure seeking behaviours such as drugs and other illicit drugs. The problem is the most drugs re short-lived experience that has long side effect than pleasure.😱😰🥵

So we end up choosing to be our own judge jury and executioner. Whats the verdict?🤔🤔🤔

“Pleasure is not the cause if happiness; rather it is the effect “

The power of positive thinking has been the talk of the town of staying focused and determined toward your goal and woth positivity you should receive salvation and abundance of wealth.

This concept has been challenged and ridiculed by many critics and spoke about its falsified impact on our reality with the false belief that everything will work out if we stay positive when in reality its not what it seemed.

instead the real talk should be about how positivity acts as a safety net for our reality as it gives you the chance to swing on a trapeze without the fear of falling (or should I say dying). As we still depending in our safety net (next topic on dependency) we forget that we are not courage but more scared of the risk to take so we become enhkuf with the idea that we are safe exactly where we are.

I think this is why people stay at their job even though they hate it, becuase it create a safety net.

The real notion should be to utilise this safety net as you morph your life, your fears, your actions and reality into what you determine it to be then take a chance and let go of your safety net. Trust yourself that you can attempt anything since you have practiced it million times already and spoke about it. So it’s time to take a jump without the net, trust yourself and you capability.

Power of positivity couples with the skills to change your reality and face your demons.

The greatest assets that you could possess is the ability to chanel your emotions into results. Knowing how to filter or titrate your emotions into the funnel of your life would be the best tool. This necessarily means that you can face any obstacles without having the fear notion taking over.

This is not only based on fears but also anger sadness frustration happiness etc. We are possessed by 7 simple emotions which means that with the skills of channelling you can have 7 weapons for growth and prosperity.

So with every problem you are faced, for every emotions it fosters and difficulty level it musters you can use the tools to break the probelm into pieces. Rememebr the bigger the problem the better the reward.

Everything in retrospect, no matter the size of the problem and the amount of resources you needed to find the solution,offers you the best life pleasantries.

Therefore the equations is as follow:

Emotions x problem = devastation

Problem – (emotions channel × positivity × creativity × discipline) = Prosperity

If you need to learn how to gain Prosperity, leave a message or a comment below and I can show you how easy this process is.

All you need is open mindness and you can achieve success and happiness beyond your wildest dreams

It only takes one step

It is the sole concept that we are never satisfied unless we are unsatisfied

The idea is that we are never satisfied in our materialistic world. We continue to chase a bottomless pit hoping to finally say thats enough. However, Its is never enough

The chase will continue until they get bigger and bigger with all material thing until they finally die or get a awaken

Two world

The two different world of both tai lopez and tony robbins gave two different insight on what success looked to them.

1. Concept of success is self-fulfillment and self-satisfaction.
2. While other is materialistic objects that emulate success

Only once you achieve success that can be measured and quantified, can someone finally feel like a winner otherwise its he is a loser through and through

Money would not change your happiness level, your depression or anything of that sort

Where did this come from?….

Most personility and behaviour we adopt starts from somewhere. Its usually the hole left behind from lack of acknowledgement, love or attention given from your parents so you hope that money can fulfill that hole

You thrive to prove yourself to your parents knowing how they had it (usually rough past or poverty) and how you cant fulfil yourself without hiding your pain with success

So youll continue to battle within yourself making another goal and another material object as a trophy for your success

These people will always feel empty regardless of what money brings to them

The compensation level to what money can provide you is nothing but a facade

Whatever success you’re after keep in mind that someone has already had it hated it and deluded themselves into thinking that just a little more would solve the problem.

Youll start thinking “Will my family finally love me if do this and get money” or ” I’ll finally get the respect that my parent have for me”

People are chasing attention and not Money

Who you are before money….

Your personality remains the same regardless of your wealth and the money you create. While many people think, if i only get rich I know I’ll be different.

NOTHING WILL BE DIFFERENT ONLY YOUR NET WORTH BUT NOT SELF WORTH

If you always were humble before you were rich, then you will stay that way when you get rich and the opposite is also true. So if you were AN ASS before money you’ll still be an ASS but with money

What about us….

The problem is that, this concpet will trickle to your personal relationships as well.

You’ll never be satisfied within your relationship because you think you not complete or there yet so you continue chasing a shadow that doesn’t exist and won’t ever reach the end.

And who ends up suffering? Your PARTNER or your FAMILY

You end up screwing up your relationship and break bond with friends as they can’t close that gap that you feel so you become alone and continue the feedback loop of self sabotage

Materialistic world

Adopted from the book mask of masculinity by @Lewis Howes. The concept stems from that money makes the man and the man has to do whatever it takes to provide otherwise his manhood card is voided

You believe that money brings you attraction friends, love and all the greatness when the opposite usually the case especially if you are an empty shallow person

The commom mistake most people do is that the first thing you buy with money is material object rather than thinking what else can you do with it.

Its what you do with money rather what money does to you.

The goal is to become a man of value and not success; create substance for yourself and your money

So we hide behind a mask that signifies success and lavish lifestyle and being behind this mask you’ll never get enough. There will never be enough

However as you go through the stages of rempving this mask, you’ll gain:

• Fulfillment

• Worthiness

• Gratitude

• Satisfied

• Inner peace

Our role

Your partner’s role is to fill that void by words of affirmation; let your partner know their worth to you and the family

Your role is to find fulfilment beyond the concept of money. Identify what foes moeny do to you, what does it mean, what does it symbolise. Once you find that, let money reward for reaching fulfilment rather than the driving force.

Be patient knowing that it will take time and its a long journey.

Before you go to bed tell them. Write down on your journal of gratitude

Don’t chase the money, chase the growth and be reward with money

Within our relationship, we forget sometime that we harvesting an old memory or pain or experience that never faded away. Instead its hidden so far below the surface that we forget it existent. That is known as the soft spot. It is better undeestook by this picture

Defining the soft spot usually happens when in the middle of conversation that tone voice changes without any notice so you could be sitting there having a laugh with one another and all of a sudden everything went cold or sour. The tone of voice, the body languages, the tingling sensation creeps up and you start to become agitstrd and unsettled. It could be yours or your partner’s but you cant mistake it for anything else.

The scariest part when you finally get triggered by your partner or when you trigger her/him is that you tend to see the Ghosts. The ghost lurks around standing beside you, haunting you, daunting and just watches. That ghost of your past comes and just waits.

Doesn’t say anything or do anything but wait and watches. Then you forget where you are and what you were talking about and all you do is… REACT.

That alarming bell starts to ring and the ghost stand around you waiting for you.

All the ghost that manifest themselves into your memory as a past trauma or pass experience and they usually stand right beside your partner so when you hear him or her say to you that triggering words, that tickles your soul but these Ghosts appear

and you seen nothing but anger rage sadness devastation whatever it is emotional state that you feel and then they get become ignited so your first thing to do is it a fight or flight or dissociation

During our evolutionary stages we understood that we have to fight inorder to survive, we have to show strength rather than weakness, we have to show growth rather than frail, so we a learn just to be the tough side of us and hide everything else below the service no matter what.

However throughout time we no longer needed that tough exterior notion of who we are, as the world evolved and we started to become more attuned to ourselves and begin to self actualize, we now transcended into a more tranquil place of our life or stages of my life.

Therefore so we no longer need that exterior rough skeleton instead we need to show the real transparency of who we are and where we exist in this world.

So when we get tackled in the modern stages by our partner and it triggers that soft spot on who we are we tend to act and that evolutionary stages of a past comes to surface and we will only to fight or flee or disassociate in order to no longer able to face those fears. We forget ourselves to show this vulnerability to our partner nor can we address them appropriately so we fight or should I say we react.

When we react nothing about conscious comes into play it’s all our subconscious taking over to ensure our survival and we can never showed outside to a partner because one they think we’re crazy to the think once table and 3 is sure that he will size of a insecurity and we can sort out part of us elves yet but we think we worried about what they will think.

Our instinct straight away becomes to just hide all of that insecurities and not face the truth. Now this impact both yourself and your partner in the long run as no way will your partner be able to connect with you in a deeper level not knowing exactly where you stand and afraid that anything else that he or she will say may trigger other reactions and that could not hold in any relationship.

This is why I always say

learn to surrender because when you surrender you give away the power of being in control, give away the power of always being right or always wanting to know what happens next and always knowing what to do next.

That power gives you an inclination that everything will go downhill if you don’t control; that delusion of grandeur will always impact you negatively.

When you learn to surrender you learn to give away your power, show vulnerability, show your true self and eventually fight your demon alongside your partner. That dependency you have grows into a Monument level and shows you a side of you that you never seen before

1. GRATITUDE
2. Achieve your personal growth
3. Ultimate Connection

Think of it this way as an example how can you hold your partner’s hand if he or she always have a clenched fist.

The art of Letting Go is literally unclenching your fist and learn to show the palm of your hand so your partner can hold you and connect with you.

If you can’t learn to be vulnerable and to trust your partner then don’t ever use these word during the relationship; love and trust

If you say to someone that I love you it should mean that

I Unconditionally trust and I fulfill my needs to you by being Venerable and being my true self so if I can trust you fully and be able to show who I really am

If you agree then we have to take away that vocabulary for my system.

Also if you can trust your partner then it also says that you can trust yourself we well. As it is known usually the reflection of who we are and reflection of our fears are defence mechanism, so we displace it into somebody else so when I say to you:

that I don’t trust you it really means I don’t trust myself to be with you.

Be true to one another and learn to surrender

Your relationship with failure has to be strong and healthy

1. A quote by Mark Twain Giving up smoking is easy…I’ve done it hundreds of times”

2. As it is explainr thag nothing happens from firsy try, gou have to dance around until you find your sync.

3. Marrying your failure, having that relationship were its merry and close.only then you will no longer fear it.

4. Fear is the most monumental element of our success. It’s impacts our progress, our health and our wellbeing..

5. Have you ever heard of mental suicide? It’s when you kill yourself from derailing yourself. Thinking so low of yourself to the point thag your brain shuts down. That only happened when you are afraid of failing or even trying

6. It only takes one steps and just know that every bad thing eventually ends, all your heartache, troubles and pain they all fade.. but the worst thing about fear that if you don’t face it, it will haunt you. It will become your worst nightmare.

7. The thought process of not trying, not willing to meet failure and marry it will only push you away. You will realise that you failed cuz you feared not cuz you tried and for that ill come to funeral becuase you done.

8. Remember one thing…You cant erase a habit but yoh can replace it. So its critical that you replace ypur mindset and ideology behind failure.

9. Know thag its a friend you want to keep

Know your worth regardless of your what happened to you.
Even if you if you were stumped,kicked, shoved, pushed around and failed at everything.
Know your worth. Nothing has devalued you but your own reflection of you worth..
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When will this battle even finish?
Who will eventually win and who will suffers?
If i end up suffering why do i keep doing it?
Is there ever an ending to this cycle?
Where do i sign to get this clearance?
Why do i keep suffering?
How many layers does it go?
Why

Million questions that only has one answer; the battle between both minds will never end. 1% of the world population are capable of understanding this connection and battling it.

While the remaining 99% continue to fall into the abyss wondering when it is their time to finally get up and get a break.

One thing you need to do to be free, to have control to understand yourself and to know where you are so you can one…

You ready… to find out….

One thing…

SURRENDER

My little poetry about love

Because I’m in love duhhhh

You reason with love and you justify it to make sure its relevant

We try to make sense of isito we dont seem lost and unlovelable.

So we hold on to it for dear life and find ways to continue these process

We are clouded, misguided and totally misconceived but that doesn’t matter..

• because we in love

Reality hurts

The eternality of love is fictional and not factual

Average life span of a romantic obsession is 2 years, but if it is a secret love affair, it might last a little longer.

After 2 years- We seek the quirks that become annoying, we see the person for whom they truly are and you start to resent their presence more and more.

Harsh words and critical judgement comes into play and become your daily routine.

Anything small within your relationship becomes a problem; the hat that is not in place,the socks out of place, the toothbrush lip open, the white spots on the mirror and the hair on the sink.

They all become infuriating and push us to the limit

Obession

But the thing is that its called an obession because we are clouded but we want to see and feel at the time of initial interaction and we find it hard to look past it without feel of the euphoria.

So this continues and continues, you cant function at work, you cant feel see or smell anything but yout in love person and we begin to act on these emotions but making a long term defining statememts. Lets get married.

The thing is that we did have the real thing and have just been given faulty information. The only bad idea is that we believed that this will last forever, we shouldve known better.

Look past the obession

Think about it, if we all remain obessed, we all be in serious trouble. Nothing will get done..

The euphoria of the inlove state gives us the illusion that we have an intimate relationship.

We feel that we belong together, we feel that we can concur anything

You start to say lines like i cant see my life without her, i can never hurt her, or this will last forever

You feel that your lover is commited to meeting your needs and that you both on the same page. We ignore the signs and focus on the illusion that its happening

They love us as much as they love them. We would never hurt them.

I dont know you anymore

We become unrealistic with our thinking and feeling

By nature we are egocentric, the world revolves around us

Once we return to our world of reality, say the 2 year mark. We begin to assert ourselves. We begin to express our desires but we forget that its different than hers.

We want sex all the time, she wants a car and we can afford it. We want to buy thing but we overexaggert our status.

You become two individuals the mind havent moulded together, we havent become one and we havent met each other intimately or psychologically anymore

The waves of reality begins to separate them.

This is where they begin to decide to make it work without the euphoria of the inlove affect

We begin to ask ourselves if this is all worth it or was it a lie all this time and now ive seen the real person.

You start to decide whether you should leave or just live in this unloved lifestyle and envt

But there is always an option to fight this and find ways to work it out after the smoke clears

I want to feel loved

Our ultimate desire in relationship is not to be inlove but to feel loved and appreciated

I need to be loved by someone who chooses to love me and sees my true potential and get past and beyond the physical state

True love cant begin unless the euphoria of in love runs its course

We cant take account the things we do during that euphoria stage, it has to go beyond that stage to find its sincerely

We feel assured once we know our spouse loves us and adores us after the inlove phase

Stay bless and find your LOVE.. just be patient

The bread and butter concept-this is where conflict between the spouse or whoever in relationship with fight about the most middle school everyday shit. This is where you identify and really solidify the relationship by approaching conflict in a positive perspective.In other words, its how you embrace conflict that will forever impact your relationship; not just with your partner but your friends, business partner and most importantly yourself.How you learn to compromise, how to work in relation to one another and how to understand you’re each other’s boundaries, believes, standards and personalities.Weakness and break down of relationship ia not based on perfect harmony but rather your honest interaction with the negativity in your life.Therefore, Conflict should be viewed as a gift and an amazing milestones in your relationship. It derives from a positive perspective, as it pertain that you finally gone over the obsession of being in love and now enter the true love phase where now you see each other for your true self.

This is when you officially stand naked, bearing nothing but your true self. Do you have the courage to do that yet? I doubt it

We have to understand that we are ceatures of social products in other words we are the result of Societal interacting and big relation with one another this is why social confinement is so detrimental to our mental health as we lose a sense of evolutionary status and will become a alone.The best thing about being human is that especially when it comes to emotional relation or just relationship in general is that we are malleable so we are able to change and adapt to circumstances to whatever we see that fits.

The best way to adapt is to adopt the secure attachment personalities ways of dealing with conflict

Here are The five principles of dealing with conflict when dealing with your partner. Concept adopted from Attached by Amir levine and Rachel Heller

1. Show basic concern for the other persons well-being

Research shows us that our happiness is dependent on our relation with our partner’s or one another. Learning to compromise and understanding other persons viewpoint is critical in where and how your relationship will Endure.Our biological status and our physiological state all are impacted by our relation to one another. So our satisfaction of a mental health and physical health and Longevity are all determined by how we relate to one another. So by showing concern to other persons needs and to start to learn to compromise, it reset our physiological status back to lower normal healthy level where you can maintain our physical and mental health for longer period of time.We can live longer and healthier

1. Maintain focus on the problem at hand

Being able to focus and narrow your attention to the problem at hand or at least the subconscious problem at hand enables you to see past the insecurities and the doubt that the partner has about the station or the comfort.This is a tricky topic so pay attention.

We all know that there’s no problem that we face is really at face value most problems that we do face are a build up of many tiny problems that goes into our insecurity and grows into our self doubt about what’s really going on so we start making up stories and elaborate stories that only have negative effect on the relationship.

Therefore, If you can focus on the problem at hand and only the problem at hand then you’ll be able to eliminate piece by piece all the issues and all the dramas that we tend to focus on, thus, the problem gets eliminated layer-by-layer.If you can get to the root of the cause of the issue soon enough before it blows up and out a proportion, you’ll be successful in every aspect of your relational life

1. Refrain from generalising the conflict

Generalising conflict is where you believe that all the problems are always based on the same topic or the same issue rather than taking each conflict as it comes.The problems are usually based on our interactions that happened once upon a time and it’s only on those interaction, however if we have built-in agendas because of our insecurities or because we never dealt with the problem head on when it first comes. Then we end up making a generalisation, saying:

you always do this,you’ve always done this to me in the past,this is why I don’t trust you

That is why we rely on generalization, we become haunted by our old doing since we never dealt with it. You generalize so much thatwe pour all our problems into one bucket and claim that they all are generalized or they all came from one source rather than dealing with each problem and drain the bucket.

1. Be willing to engage

This is where we don’t let the problem takes over us when instead we take over the problem.we get to face the issues at first and learn to engage as soon as the problem arise.The problem is that if we allow situation to continue Rising and we push it under the rug until further notice then that does nothing but eventually creeps up and ruin your whole weekend together and possibly even the whole relationship.1. Effectively communicate feelings and needsEffective communication is the trump card to all of our conflict resolutions; nothing beats a good conflict than effective communication. Effective communication deals with the needs and feelings of the other partner or even yourself at the forefront before it even goes past the first days of being a conflict.

Doesn’t mean that the conflict will be resolved but at least the feelings and needs within the conflict will be effectively address and catered for.

The best part about this is that if you realise your partner doesn’t consider your feelings or your needs constantly during or before or after a conflict then you know what type of attachment personality you have but also will let you know about the type of relationship you are in and then you can make that decision whether it’s ideal for you to continue this type of relationship or is time for you to go.Identifying your needs and your feelings through effective communication it’s the very key ingredient into a healthy relationship as well as dealing with any future conflict head on without feeling of any ramification.Oxytocin the love hormone. It deals with the relation and an emotional capacity of a relationship, it induces labour, and it ignites arousal during relation.We release oxytocin when we cuddle, when we climax and when we basically aroused by your partner.this is why it’s called the love hormone.So at any moment you want to replace doing your Sunday morning work instead of cuddling with your partner think again. These hormones help in reduction of conflict with your partner and build trust with one another.The best part, is it allows you to forget and forgive quickly as a conflict ever arises and learn not to ignite protest or activation behaviours where your partner will take things out of proportion.

Instead there will take things on face value, listen, engaged and attune to your feelings and need by just simply giving your partner an extra time to cuddle.

Studies has shown that anxious and avoiding people tend to use their own activation or deactivation of behaviours in order to avoid conflictso they reduce using any the principles and show more heightened aggression towards a conflict or a problem in order to gain attention or to avoid attention regarding situation thus allowing themself to justify their behaviour and justify their actions towards the conflict.

The word of the day is affirmation which is the power of the tongue you,

can create life or can destroy a life giving somebody a compliment should sustain somebody on a daily basis.

Communication; words of compliment, words of appreciation.

A simple continuous words of affirmation sustained somebody’s life within the relationship

it’s just a validation to know that somebody’s, not only appreciate it, but valued in the relationship. It could be something as simple as

“you look great, you look amazing”

thank you for setting up the babysitter

thank you for picking me up from work etc

the idea is to not take things for granted but to show your appreciation or affirmation towards your partner or……

Courage

Giving an example words of encouragement. If you need things done around the house for example, instead of nagging them to get it done. You can provide words of encouragement that has nothing to do with things done around the house. A compliment thay gives your partner a sense of value and appreciation.

Think about it from history whrn has nagging ever worked, almost never. However if you However your partner to get things done in their pace you’ll not only get things done but also more will be done out of appreciation.

The best thing to move forward is to just give them a compliment in all aspects.

Everyday write one to three things your partner thats incredible and would need recognition. Think of things that we take for granted, like paying rent, buying milk, cleaning your car etc and deliver those appreciation before bed or after waking up. I say give one before you go to bed and one after and lease one more aroubd the house so they can see and be genuinely surprised.

Be careful not to use these tools for your advantage. It has to come from love and be genuine otherwise youll be exploiting their vulnerability

The cycle of appreciation

The concept is that with every word of appreciation, your spouse will do something for you in return as a sign of appreciation. The cycle of appreciation continues. similar to the idea of pay it forward but this one is just for your partner and not others.

This concept adopted from Dr Chapman and his book 5 language of love and he gave an example about one of his client wanted their room painted which her husband delayed starting the process. However once began to give him tons off affirmation through the week. The husband felt loved and not nagged and began panting the house without needing any reminders.

The power of words and the good affirmation ignites the essence of your being and shines a light on your where you belong in the relationship. Not a single feeling in the world that can replace that. A sense that you belong and matter within your relationship has a huge place in every man and woman heart. Cherish these moment and simply acknowledge your partner, it says alot by saying a little. Three simple affirmations a day is all that it takes to spark love back into your relationship.

The only question is that, what if you don’t need these affirmation? What if other things your partner does that makes you feel loved and important. I dont think anyone is asking for too much

Three words of affirmation a day to make the pain to go away

The words of encouragement it’s just another way of feeling valued and also another form of reassurance to give somebody the perception that is he or she is appreciate it, he is she is valued within the household and he or she is doing something great. We are always mask by our insecurities we tend to see ourselves in a negative perception due to our evolutionary stages;we see ourselves in the negative manner in order for us to develop and find a better way to overcome a negative attributes or personality that we have.

So,

by giving us the words of encouragement you eliminate those negative perceptions of ourselves, you eliminate the feeling of insecurities and you ensure that we can remove the mask that we wear on a daily basis and feel more vulnerable and perform humility towards the partner and that’s exactly what you need in the language of love.

The words that you say may not have any leverage or any weight on it and unless it’s followed were the tone the tone of voice coupled with your kind words are the most influential and the most impactful meaning toward expression of love. I would like to add to that the body language in which two tone and the words are expressed also add leverage weight and meaning to way your express.

if your body language says submissive or inattentive, distant or uncomfortable then any tone of words followed with that might not have the same impact if you expressed it in a different language of body and kindness of words.

If the body language tone of voice matches and complement the expression then only then can your spouse accept your word and be assured that what he or she is saying is honest truthful and transparent and then it’ll be followed by appropriate action from your spouse. So if you say I love you and your tone of voice mimics that happiness Joy jovial expression then you will receive a reciprocal reaction of love however if your body language says otherwise then you could have basically said I hate you, you are the worst thing that ever happened to me cos it’s real not only the will it feel like it’s sarcasm but I also feel like it’s not genuine.

So just be mindful and conscious about where you are, how you said it, your body language or tone of voice, your facial expressions in when you expressing love.

Please forgive me

We cant disucss love, happiness and apprecaition without talking about forgivness. Forgiveness is an acknoldgement that even though you did wrong, i still forgive you because you sometime dont have control over your actions. your subconscious determine your actions and behaviour. Shame on you subconscious.

Forgiveness is an expression of love; it’s not a mindset but it’s an action towards a more healthy fulfilling relationship. Understand there’s a lot of turbulence that comes with forgiving somebody’s mistakes depending on how horrendous it is and I stand that it could open A Realm of uncertainty and it could also open the lock of countless multiple mistakes. I’m discussing in regarding a healthy relationship were mistakes not only happen but it’s also anticipated, we have to understand that we are humans and we gonna make mistakes so we should meet each mistake with an open arm and acceptance and open mindfulness otherwise your spouse will forever hold on to those mistakes and the secrets and build up until one day it blows up into something more out of proportion.

An unhealthy relationship where some circumstances such as cheating lack of intimacy constant lying and deceit continues to happen then that’s a discussion for another topic.

Breaking up and breaking a relationship or just understanding that it’s not working and finding the way the balance in between it’s something that we need to work on heavily and Ill discuss it in future topics but for now I’m just covering idea of a healthy relationship.

Bless and stay true🙏🙏🙏🙏

I’ll share with you a story about an athlete with a cerebral palsy who competed in the 400meter race

When the race began, with every strol he took, he was painfully dragging his feet across the concret. The pain was unbearable but he kept on running

The remaining athletes finished the race and the were now beginning to watch the last man with awe and amazement

The athlete continue to drag his feet and continue to push through, seeing the end goal in sight but the pain kept on reminding him of his baggage. He had one thing in mind, FINISH.

now everyone that finsihed the race waited to watch them finish. The unexpected happen however, everyone began cheering him on as if he was the gold medalist.

The athlete kept on pushing and pushing dragging and dragging until he waa fibally 3/4 the way till the end, then the worst happened. He started to bleed and he Fell.

But to his surprise thats when people cheered even louder and LOUDER.

So that pain became distant and he knew what he had to do. FINISH.

Now all the other athletes followed him, stood by him and some were ahead of him clapping, encouraging him to push on and focus on his GOAL. FINISH.

Sure enough after a gruelling excruciating pain. He managed to finish. Finally, blood gnashing put and be has only one thing on his mind, FINISH. AND FINISH HE DID!!!

NOTHING else mattered, he knew he made and everythung now was worth, even the blood, the pain, the challenges and the negative thoughts that managed to creep in.

The moral of the story was if you continue to compete with other people (other athletes) you always going to lose.

Everyone’s going to be ahead of you

But the moment you start to compete with yourself everyone starts to help you.

So your core values should not for you to compete with other business or people or other relationships,

But instead is to continue to fight with yourself to better yourself and only then that everybody will come United come together and start believing in what you believe.

When you start to compare yourself with others YOU become haunted by the idea that you always need to be on top and continue to fight with no end.

However,

if you just focus on bettering yourself and only with yourself then everybody will come United come together and help you with the cause.

Why….?

Because start to believe in what you believe and follow your lead.